Well, I sometimes get that without saying or doing anything really, I just worry about what people will say or think over stuff I may have done which no one has complained about at all but still makes me worry.
Sometimes it's as simple as something I said that may be misunderstood, other times is the way I act which may be misconstrued at a different level and people will react to it in ways that are simply randomly selected out of their OWN messed up Psyche.
We all suffer from Paranoia a bit, we all worry needlessly over certain behaviours which could be left alone and no one would bat an eye, but sometimes we seek that final confirmation that we can make things better.
And, just like that, by asking; we make them all the worse.
See, if people didn't notice you saying something offensive, the reality is, that if you ASK about it, they will end up noticing it all the more. If they were just acting like they didn't notice, well then, you JUST confirmed it to them.
So, which one is better, act the fool, or just come out and say things straight? Depends on the outcome you want. If you GENUINELY and unequivocally require to make amends, go for the kill and the question, but that may not fix anything at all.
Why do I go about this?
It's simple, while I was born in a Latin country, where Spanish is THE main form of communication, my use of it is haphazard at best.
I have been thinking and talking in English long enough that the 1st meaning of any word I utter, is the English variant and that leads to all sorts of weird outcomes when speaking with people that MAINLY use Spanish. It's not at total lack of communication, but it does yield some impressive misunderstandings.
As is my nature, I ask about this, and more often than not, end up making a bigger thing out of something no one would have noticed.
It's fun sometimes though, I am separated from others by a common language and hilarity ensues.
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